Managing S&M 24/7 Relationships: Dynamics of Refusal
The topic of ‘refusing’ or ‘requesting’ within the power dynamic can be confusing and can contribute to the deterioration of the relationship unless prior negotiation is taken care of. Cecilia Tan...
View ArticleSubmissive Self Safety: Safe Call
It’s not only the ‘tops’ responsibility to watch out for safety, it’s important for the ‘bottom’ (or submissive) to ensure their own safety. Cecilia Tan discusses some vital things to consider when...
View ArticleSubmissive Self Safety: Meeting People
When looking for love (or maybe just a hot kinky scene ; ) there are some key issues for a submissive individual to consider when meeting someone new. Cecilia Tan talks about how to navigate those...
View ArticleSubmissive Self Safety: Scene Stories
As an experienced, active, and long-time player in the BDSM Scene, Cecilia Tan shares some stories of ‘scenes gone bad’ in the hopes that it might prevent others from making the same mistakes. Also in...
View ArticleSubmissive Self Safety: Blame
With her usual wit and humor, Cecilia Tan delves into the topic of ‘blame’ within BDSM experiences such as when a ‘mistake’ is made during a scene and the submissive’s tendency to ‘self-blame’. She...
View ArticleSubmissive Self Safety: Negotiation
Learning how to negotiate for your own needs is a vital skill for any submissive or bottom. Knowing how (and being able) to stand up for your own safety and boundaries both before the scene starts and...
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